Spell to make my awful neighbour shut up

[cherrypie]

Hi there,

to cut it that short: I want my neighbour to shut his mouth.

Ten years ago he moved into his mother's house (she had her 100th birthday last year) to take care of his mother. Care is the wrong word, to be honest. All he does is sitting in his chair in their winter garden and bawling at her. Of course she cannot hear very well but he doesn't shout at her because of this, he is non-stop insulting her: you are so damn stupid, sit down and be quiet, you need too much money (it is HER money, for her medicine etc. She pays all his invoices, his food, he has his grandsons at this house as well (teenagers with really dubious friends I know too much about - I wouldn't want my kids to hang around with these kind of people but he doesn't care, he only pretends to be interested in them, it is all for "the other people") you also cost money and who also cause work for her (yes, she still needs to work)), you are talking b...shit....." (fill in any insult you can think of). Then by lunchtime he is already so drunk you could't talk to him anyway. Not that he was sleeping, but he just doesn't care.

She often cries when I talk to her, when he is not at home, nobody deserves to live like that.

We are affected as well as we cannot leave the front door open in summer because we can hear him everywhere in our house. Sitting in front of the house on a warm evening, drinking a glass of wine? Impossible. If we have to do some work in the yard we need headphones, otherwise we cannot bear it. Even my husband who very rarely gets unnerved by something says he can't take it anymore.

This highly aggressive energy, constantly wafting over to us, is depleting.

I have thought about calling the police etc., but as we have to live here and as he will stay in this house after his mother has died we will be the ones he will turn his aggression to. he hates our cats anyway and I fear the situation will become even more unbearable for us, it will be open war, so to say. I really don#t know how to help her or us.

Any ideas?

[SnowCat]

You should contact Adult Protective Services. You should also document everything that you see and hear. If he hates your cats, keep them indoors. Cat are quite capable of leading happy and healthy lives indoors. Your neighbor is at risk. Step up. Please.

Snow

[Xiao Rong]

I'm going to concur with Snowcat about contacting Adult Protective Services -- sometimes the need for mundane action supersedes the need for magical action. I'm sure you can talk to them and make them aware of the situation, while communicating your own need to remain safe and at a distance. It's great that you are already speaking to and supporting the old woman herself. As a supplement to contacting the authorities, I would recommend protective magic for yourself and for the old woman (from what I understand, binding spells like the one you're asking for merely sap your own energy and require constant renewal -- they are less effective in the long run).

[Becks]

I agree with the above. My heart breaks as I read this post.

[Katrinkah]

This is sad Saying a prayer for all of you.

[Firebird]

I'm with Snow, He is abusing his mother and that's against the law.
This makes me angry, is he the only child? What I'm getting at is there any other family member that you or someone could notify then they might call the police?
How miserable for that poor woman. Do you visit with her much? Sounds like she could use a friend.
As far as spell work, this is one of those wavy lines.
Perhaps a mirror type spell, so that anything he flings in your direction will bounce back to him?
Best of luck,
Firebird

[cherrypie]

Thanks for your replies!

Normally this is what I would ahve done long ago, to inform the authorities. But there are numerous family members who know and even witness how he treats the old woman. Nobody does anything except sometimes tell him not to be so nasty. That is all. The doctor is there regularly (but he won't behave that way as long as he is present) and everyday there are nurses for washing her, on Monday another nurse comes for cleaning the house. They all see and hear what happens there. The whole neighbourhood hears him.

Please don't get me wrong: if all those people including those who work for social authorities don't even say anything, how could I make a difference without risking huge problems for my own family? I'm pretty sure she wouldn't want me to inform anybody. She is desperate but no matter how bad it is nobody has to touch her family. It has always been this way. Sounds like an excuse but that is exactly how it is. She and her family and my own family live next to each other for more than 60 years ( my great-grandfather, my grandparents and my dad - he was only 4 - had to flee from Hungary in 1944 having German roots, together with my neighbour and her family. They built a new existence here and had to work really hard for it. These are proud people, with a strong sense of family, so that is one of the problems here.) so I have seen and experienced quite a few occasions where exactly this showed up (I'm not THAT old, but in my childhood it could be witnessed quite often).

I like her very much and she likes me a lot as well. She has told me not too long ago that she dearly loved me and that we are kin, as Hungarians, so to say (I don't even speak Hungarian ). I always go over to her house on Friday evenings when he is away for playing cards, to make sure she hasn't fallen and that everything is okay. She is always so happy when I come over and then she pours her heart out. I always tell her that it is such a shame how he treats her and what I think of him, and I knows she tells him. But he just doesn't care. He must be aware that everybody can hear him, but he thinks it is his right, after all he is the poor one, having to be there all the time and take care of her. This is all I can do for her, I guess. Maybe that protection spell for her is a good idea.

[Firebird]

Ask the dr.if he could call the authorities, ...actually he is required by law to report abuses. And of course the son straightens up when the dr. is around...it is classic and typical abusive behavior.Tell the dr.what you have seen and heard, ask him to keep your information confidential as you fear this guy also.
Different cultures can really permeate abuse because rarely does someone want to acknowledge that this could be happening.
I'm Praying for the woman. What a way to spend your hundredth year
Blessings, Firebird

[Becks]

Just because others are apathetic-doesn't mean you should be. Nothing might happen, but you can know you did everything you could.

[cherrypie]

Just because others are apathetic-doesn't mean you should be. Nothing might happen, but you can know you did everything you could.

Of course nothing will happen, except that he will make our lives hell. No, I have thought years and years about it but I won't sacrifice our peace and safety if there are other people who are directly involved. Maybe this is egoistic, maybe this is cowardly, but I wouldn't have messed with him when he was here alone with his mother, but especially not now that his grandsons are also here and hang around with criminal and dangerous people who don't hesitate beating people up, putting garages on fire, slit up car wheels etc. I'm not keen on confronting with these people. I have two kids and I know what happened to some of their friends. Don't need to be a hero just to have to fear for my family in the end. I probably wouldn't hesitate if I was on my own, but it is a whole different story with a family.

The doctor won't do anything as he doesn't experience him behaving that way. Maybe the nurses do. His daughters won't do anything as it is him who they get their money from, they are living in his house in another town, don't pay a cent for this and surely won't mess with him.

Maybe I can find a way to do this anonymously.

[miachrhys]

I agree with what the other posters have stated about Adult Protective Services. It doesn't matter that no one else has done it -- it is up to you to be responsible enough to recognize that your neighbor is being emotionally abused by her son. Wouldn't you want someone to call for your mother if she was in a similar situation? Sometimes you have to do the hard thing, but it's worth it if it means protecting a human being. The fact that she cries when you see her is a big sign that she is struggling emotionally and she needs help and support to get through it.

I know that it can be difficult to put yourself out there and contact the authorities, but it becomes APS's decision on whether or not to remove the senior from the home. I had to call the police a couple of years ago on a neighbor who was physically and emotionally abusing his girlfriend. I could hear her begging him to stop hurting her through the walls, and I could hear him choking her. I was in an uncomfortable situation but I came to the conclusion that if it was my mother or sister or friend, I'd want someone to call and let that person know that that behavior is not okay.

The police came and took my statement and spoke with both of them. It was ultimately their decision to arrest the guy, which they did. She went back to him and helped him post bail, but they moved out of the place a couple of weeks after the incident. Neither of them ever said anything to me about what happened. Sometimes you have to help protect people that aren't willing (for whatever reason) to protect themselves.

If your neighbor is removed and placed in a facility, it's likely that her funds would be managed by a coordinator on her behalf. Does the son have the money to live next to you if he isn't getting his mother's money?

I would also suggest bringing some black tourmaline into your home. You could also try smokey quartz. Lastly, Deborah Blake posted a spell on her Facebook page that might be of use. It's called the 'Jerk Avoidance Spell' and it was posted on May 31st. It seems a little silly, but it isn't like you have much to lose by trying it, right?

[silverowl]

If you're in the US and call the police make sure an officer comes to your home to file a formal report. Someone my mom worked with had an issue with a neighbor harassing their dog. They yelled at him, shot him with a BB gun, etc. They had every incident formally documented by the police, which is good for them because a few nights ago the neighbor was piss drunk and leaned over the 5 foot tall fence to taunt the dog and well the dog did lots damage to the guys face. He's in quarantine now, but they're expecting him to be safe because of the long documented history of harassment. Once it's formally documented then it can be used as legal evidence in court if things keep on as they are. She's so lucky to have someone like you who's able to keep an eye out for her. I can't believe someone could be so awful to their own mother.

[silvergrey]

I would recommend several spells:
-a protection spell for your neighbour as suggested above
-a protection spell/barrier set up for your house so his negativity doesn't affect you and your family's lives
-the Jerk Avoidance Spell mentioned above sounds like a good idea!
-perhaps a spell to calm his mind, make him less agressive and more compassionate? I know we're not supposed to mess with people's free will, so if he chooses to be an abusive asshole then technically he has a right to do so, but on the other hand, nobody's right to act as they please includes a right to abuse others, so in this case I think it's justified.

[moonraingirl]

It's such a complicated situation. I know the feeling because I had neighbours who were not taking care of their young son.father was an alcoholic, mother just didn't care. There was another older son doing drugs and his weird friends. Young boy was constantly outside, sitting on the grass in rain in January. He was also always hungry. We took him on a trip once for a barbecue in local touristic area. Omg that kid couldn't stop eating!

I was afraid to report them, too. I really didn't want to face the drunk guy. But eventually, I've sent an anonymous report to the social services and in a short time, the child was given to his grandmother and the parents moved away. They never found out it was me who reported them.

Maybe you can call the authority and explain your fear and ask them what can be done for your security, if they are able to hide the identity of the reporter. That's what I've done. When I saw that they would keep it secret, I agreed to provide the information.
Because you say there are many people who hear him, he will not be able to prove it was you who called the authority.

[lilacnyellow]

Ask St. Joseph to help. He helps sell houses maybe he could get them to move?


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