Being disturbed - seems like always

[blue_moon]

This really frustrates me!
We're a family of five so I'm actually used to be disturbed a lot!
I can't paint or read or write when the kids are around - they'll want something.
When wanting to do spellwork its even worse. Someone comes and disturbs me EVERY single time! I have to keep it way to basic and short it frustrates me and I don't even have a room i could lock myself into.

Just now - I wanted to keep it short. Cast a salt circle on my balcony. Light a candle. Burn some sage and ask for some things to change (kept thinking the kids would pop in so I was a but tense) so I decided to sprinkle some salt around my balcony for protection. - now this distracted the people downstairs (*geez*...) and I feel worse then before.

I hate this always happens...
I've thought about just going out and doing it away from home and town. But first of all I can't just take the car and leave - I'm responsible at night and the kids do come out every now and then.
And second I am scared. We have so many wild boars around here. Even if I'd just go sit by the woods I might be too close. And everywhere else I'd feel to seen.

During daytime I feel to distracted by my surrounding (and my to do list) and at night I physically get distracted.

Have you ever dealt with something alike?

Right now I feel like running away ("from home") it frustrates me! And this energy is really counterproductive

[Vendredi]

Aw, hey blue_moon.

I'm a mom, too. I so understand. I've decided, for me, to acknowledge those feelings, and allow myself to feel like I want/need to run away...and the important part is that I'm not allowed to judge myself.

I can't really help you much. I have dealt with this, and I continue to deal with this. I've decided to just accept this as part of my life right now. Like everything else, it will change. But you for sure aren't alone!

My friends with grown children always say how they miss the times when the kids were home. I dunno.

[Kassandra]

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This really frustrates me!...I can't paint or read or write when the kids are around - they'll want something... When wanting to do spellwork its even worse. Someone comes and disturbs me EVERY single time!...Have you ever dealt with something alike? Right now i feel like running away ("from home") it frustrates me! And this energy is really counterproductive

Yep. I remember these days.



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[blue_moon]

Hey you two. Thank you!
I'm so used to being disturbed with what ever I start. It frustrates but ok - that's life.
But these distractions during magickal work - I somehow separated this...
Distraction after I finally got my stuff together, my mind set and my circle cast - basically it's the same case. You're so right!

But how did and do you deal with that then? (Desperately in need of a "first aid" idea)

[Kassandra]

But how did and do you deal with that then?

Haha, I got frustrated, like you are now, nothing else to add to that. It was what it was.




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[blue_moon]

*lol* na great....

[Vendredi]

I really don't have any first aid. And I don't know how old your kids are. But you can start teaching them about boundaries, respecting other people's needs, and patience. It takes a lot (TONS!) of repetition, but eventually you'll train them.

Or they'll move out. Whichever.

[smogie_michele]

I have no actual advice on this because I don't have kids... but I do have a story that may make you smile.

I was bragging to my fiance about how my fur kids never really got in my way while I was painting of practicing ritual or spellwork. That night, it was Imbolc so I had a million candles lit on my altar for ritual. In the middle of it, my cat jumped on my altar, slid the cloth around, and knocked over every candle I had, catching the cloth (and eventually altar) on fire.

I guess those with smaller bodies just have smaller boundaries.

I have a sneaking suspicion that once your kids are a little bit older, you are going to miss them being young. Allow yourself to get frustrated every now and again... It is your right as a momma- kids are hard! But I have a feeling at the end of the night, the frustration is worth it

Sending lots of love your way- and a bottle of wine if you need it!

[blue_moon]

Haha - cats!
But you saved the altar didn't you?

You know what? Thinking about it, it's mainly my 11- year old disturbing. The boys actually are in bed by the time I want to start with ritual. (6&3).
They disturb me all day long guess they've reached their Pensum by then.

[smogie_michele]

The altar was saved, just a few patches of burn marks here and there... my altar cloth didn't quite survive it.

And oh my goodness, you must have your hands full! from preschool age to preteen age, I bet you don't get a break!

[YanaKhan]

Yeah, I can never understand why would people think I would miss my kid being constantly by my skirt (so to speak). To be fair, I enjoy spending time with her more now that she's able to understand me and respond like a grown up Same with high school - people told me I will miss it. Never did, don't miss it now, don't think I'll ever miss it. And I was one of the "popular" kids. I sorta miss my uni years though, those were great.

But to the point - I have a child (only one, I can't even imagine more) and used to get interrupted not only while casting, but like every time I tried to do something. Now I have more time on my hands with my daughter being at school all day and going to bed at 9.30. I do rituals when nobody's home but me. Or after everyone goes to bed. Usually I'm the last one down, so I try and squeeze a ritual here and there in the evening.

I know how demanding being a mom is and I guess it's three times harder with three kids, so I don't really have any solution for you. But a meditation in bed and a banishing ritual in the morning during my shower used to work for me for years. Not saying this is what you should be doing, just sharing experience.

[blue_moon]

That's all I asked for, YanaKahn, experience to be shared.

Yeah three is quite some noise, mess and dirt *lol*

I really should use my free time in the mornings and make it sacred time. For the past few weeks I've been just running through my to do list in the mornings.

It's 9.30 now. Kids in bed and I'm about to follow.

[smogie_michele]

I would consider ten minutes with your coffee in the morning a sacred time...
I consider coffee sacred...

[Kassandra]

I consider coffee sacred...

Yeah, we see that by your signature line, lol.



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