Feelings of bitterness and negativity

[EtherealMoonRose]

I'll start with a bit of a back story. Sorry this might be long and confusing but I've tried to make it as short and to the point as possible.

There was this woman I befriended on facebook years ago because we had many mutual friends, one of them being my younger sister. I had never actually met her in real life until July this year. About a year or two ago, she became best friends with a girl I went to primary school with and who I and my best friend apparently 'bullied'. We were 8 years old. Although it was more of a personality clash more than anything, she was a bit strange from what I can remember. Always paranoid and accusing people of things that never happened. She obviously told woman A about this so called bullying I used to put her through. Cue woman A automatically hating me (unknowingly to me) Anyway. I thought what happened at primary school was all behind us. It was almost 20 years ago. We were even facebook friends for ages and I thought we got along ok.

It was my sisters 21st in July. Woman A and woman B were invited (I can't remember how her and my sister met). Woman B's mother even tagged along much to my sisters dismay. This was the first time I met woman A and the first time since school I saw woman B. We got along great or so it seemed. Laughing and reminiscing. All was going well until my best friend showed up. I was doing most of the cooking and organizing so I was inside a lot with my best friend. Woman B kept coming up to us and saying things like "I'm a different person since school" ect and just random things but we brushed it off because she (and the other two) were very drunk. This continued for a while. I sensed something wasn't right so my best friend and I went outside. All of a sudden woman B's mother had a go at us. Saying how horrible we are. Random again. My sisters partner told them to leave the party and they did.

I witnessed a huge fight on facebook the next day and stupid me left a comment saying how her mother had a go at us for no reason. Woman A proceeds to say that I am a horrible person, what I did to woman B at school was disgusting, how I'm a sl*t because I have four children with two different men, she kept going and going. I was called every name in the book. All from a woman who met me once. Apparently my best friend and I were talking behind woman B's back at the party which is not true at all! I am the first to admit when I am wrong. We didn't say anything bad about anyone that night. Like I said we were ALL getting along great.

I can't seem to move on from this. I still feel angry when thinking about the things woman A said to me. I know it may seem silly and petty to some people but I was really hurt. What makes it worse is, my father knows what happened and still insists on talking to these women. So I guess I feel betrayed by him in a way, too.

I was wondering what I could do to help me move on. I was thinking of doing a banishing spell to rid myself of negativity. Does anyone have any thoughts? Ideas?

Blessings.

[Becks]

Well that sucks. Save the drama for your llama eh?

Your feelings aren't silly. They are your feelings and you are completely entitled to them. I would personally attempt to solve this in a mundane fashion without the use of magic. Then, if I still was having a hard time I would then do a spell. You can do a banishment/severing ties if you feel that you are stuck.

It sounds like you might just need a bit of time. Have you got to the heart of what really has upset you about this? Sometimes, if something is still bothering me then maybe you I haven't really dissected what it is that isnt sitting well. I have found that to be the case anyhow, but it's an individual thing.

It sounds like these people are hanging on to things from a long time ago. If the chick that had the problem with your 8 year old self had come to you in a mature way-then you could have had a discussion and solved it. Instead they got loaded and weird. That is odd behaviour no wonder you are unsettled.

Have you ditched these people from your Facebook? Hope so. Because there is no reason to have them in your life like that.
Has your sister?
Do you have to see this person regularly in the community? Hope not!

Hopefully you don't have to see them and can eliminate that from your life. She had a right to be hurt, but coming to your family's place and getting weird is just...weird.

[EtherealMoonRose]

Luckily I live 4 hours away from these people! Yes I have unfriended them on facebook but my dad and sister haven't so I always see them commenting and liking their things which drives me crazy. I just realised I can block them and I've done just that.

I couldn't even imagine contacting these people after what has happened. As far as they are concerned they have done nothing wrong in any of this. Which is frustrating! I'm a very sensitive person so maybe that has something to do with how I feel two months on. I am so sick of these horrible negative feelings

The whole night in question was very weird indeed! I almost feel like it was their plan after all to stir the pot.

[Becks]

Blocking is a good idea. This is the weird thing about FB....
Hope you are able to shield and block and move on from the situation.

[EtherealMoonRose]

Thankyou Becks, I'll try my darn hardest!

[Red Ember]

Sorry to hear your having such a bad time of it. Blocking them was a good idea.

As difficult as this may be to do I would say one of the best things you could do is consider them no longer part of your life and then get on with your life without them. I know that is easier said then done but the thing is that some people live for drama and love nothing more then to create, and any contact with them of any kind will just allow them to feed their need for that drama.

Sometimes the best line of defence is learning how to disconnect and disengage from a situation. Ok, so its not nice that this girl was bullied as a child (it can be soul destroying for the bullied person), but that been said it was a long time ago and she has to learn that holding onto hate or anger is only hurting herself. Its not your fault and it does not give her the the right to in turn become someone who bullys.

[EtherealMoonRose]

Funnily enough I am feeling a lot better today already.

I too was bullied as a child but I didn't let it shape what kind of person I became.

Thanks for your reply Red. I will keep filling myself with positive affirmations.

[Becks]

I'm very happy to hear you are doing better today! That's great news.

[Red Ember]

Good to hear you are feeling a bit better.

[shatteredsouls]

Argh, words are really weapons sometimes. I can't understand why people like to assume, misunderstand and start hurling verbal abuses but they will die down in time. Of course, the way you handle it will show your personality as well.

Let the words be words, after all, they're not people you care about. They don't know you. They're not important in your life. I'm not there but I'll give you a virtual hug! Haha!

[EtherealMoonRose]

Aww, thankyou! As the saying goes- "In order for you to insult me, first I must value your opinion" rings true. I guess I was just having a bad day.

[Imperious]

Argh, words are really weapons sometimes.

I just don’t find that anymore.

When I was younger, it was certainly an issue because (like most sensitives) I took things to heart. Nowadays, because I know myself very well and have no problem apologising when I’m wrong, if someone says something mean or hurtful… Well, I literally couldn’t care less. Half the time I end up laughing about it.

I know myself very well, and I know that I can create my own reality. If someone’s a d***, I remove them from it. Ultimately, I reckon this is why knowing yourself and being at peace with who you are is so important; it makes you immune to this type of rubbish.

[EtherealMoonRose]

I did laugh it off. Was more upset about my dad still talking to them. And I regret being nice to them. But that's just me.