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Just wanted to share a couple thoughts I had on this:
Spellwork Anchors
So now that I know he didn’t stray from me on his own free will, I want to try and remove it off him. ...If he had left on his own, I would leave it be, but now that I know this, I’m hoping there is something I can do to remove it off him in hopes he will have the blinders removed.
Not saying the spell can't be undone Capricorn101, but my thought on this is a spell that tampers with the target's will like this sexual binding spell, actually "latches on" to some part of the person's individual will, some part of his psyche. Otherwise, it wouldn't "take," and all attempts to bind him would have easily bounced off of him, energetically-speaking. He wouldn't have succumbed to the spell
at all. But we are led by our own temptations, and there may have been something he finds desirable about the girl, some detail, however small, that attracts him. This anchors the energy of the spell, and from there
his own desire fans the flame of the spell, and it grows in strength unimpeded.
A sensitive spell-caster will be able to ascertain what that "something" is, his weakness(es), while conceiving the spell, and take that into consideration in terms of the methods and materials used to actually execute the spell. That's partly why it's so important to do a reading before spell casting (or get one done if you are not able to do the reading yourself, either because you lack the skill, or because you are "too close" to the topic emotionally), to ascertain the actual energetic dynamics of a situation, get a good look at it, and thereby figure out what to use in remediating the situation, and how to use it.
Therefore, my thought is that some part of your man's will IS indeed contributing to the success of this spell. But again, as I said in the beginning of this post, I don't think it's anything that can't be undone. Here is a thread contemporary to yours where the original poster seems to be the one getting the love/binding spell done on him:
http://everythingunderthemoon.net/forum ... ml#p240527. Notice further down the thread that once he was honest with himself about the situation, he then took the action needed to cut the spell, to "unbind" himself, basically. He disciplined himself using magic, but a person need not do magic as he did. Just speaking the word in one's mind, and then outwardly acting on it, that changes everything. Our thoughts are powerful things. They create, they destroy. He used his will to trump the will of the person who casted the spell on him.
Recreating the Pleasure
Finally, a suggestion: once you get him back, try to ascertain what drew him away in the first place. Then, try to recreate that in your relationship with him (only if it comfortably suits you to do so). Gather this information in a discrete way, and work on yourself not be judgmental about it, not make him feel guilty in any way. You would just be information-gathering, and would be respectful with the information once it's gathered.
Perhaps, on a night when you guys are feeling chatty and having fun, ask him in a non-threatening way exactly it what was that he found special about the girl, or about the relationship they shared. He might just tell you about some activity they enjoyed (that he doesn't enjoy with you). Learn from this. And if you're open to trying it, then try it, and if you find it's OK, make it a mainstay in your relationship.
Important note: I would say it's important you add your own uniqueness to this effort so that you're not trying to be someone else, but just being yourself (you want him to remember
you, not someone else). If you try to act like someone else, then your efforts might backfire and have the opposite effect than what was intended. Instead of enjoying you and being in the moment, he might be triggered into thinking about the interloper instead...and you wouldn't want that.
A Learning Experience
In summary, if handled the right way, what started out as a heartbreaking situation might unexpectedly turn out to be an enlightening, instructive event that brings deeper understanding and enjoyment between the two of you, thereby enhancing your love. I hope that's the outcome!
Good luck.
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