Urgently requesting help: Marriage issues

[skyler1486]

I'm going to come right out with it. I'm sure you all get this a lot but I need a spell, charm, anything. My wife left me and it was pretty unexpected and traumatic for me.

She has gone down a dark path in recent months with drugs and alcohol that all stems from her deflated sense of self worth over being infertile.

She is truly throwing away true love over a fight from a week ago. This demon that she has become is not her. She has pushed her friends, family, and me out of her life.

She used to strive for goodness but now she strives for selfishness.

I don't care what kind of spell. I need her to listen to reason and goodness.

Please help me anyone

[bluejay_1919]

I don't do spells, but I believe in the power of positive thought and sending loving kindness. I will send light & loving energy your way. I'm sure there are many others that can help with the spells.

[skyler1486]

Thank you please do that

[skyler1486]

The more help I can get the better.

[Vesca]

Skyler, please head over to our introductions section and tell us a bit about yourself.

[skyler1486]

Done:)

[Firebird]

You may find there are many such kinds of requests. The search feature will sort out the specifics for you.
Many here feel twisting the will of another to be taboo. I'm sure you will reach a conclusion.
Also, time can change things and perhaps the woman needs to find her bottom, sorry to be harsh. Hope you find some healing for yourself.
Bb, Firebird

[skyler1486]

If ANYONE at all can help me please get to me asap. It's sad, but this forum is the only thing I have to lean on right now. I don't have friends or family in my area to confide in. The only thing I do is work and go home and cry . This isn't right. This woman and I were literally made for each other before she succumbed to temptation an her personal demons.

[skyler1486]

You may find there are many such kinds of requests. The search feature will sort out the specefics for you.
Many here feel twisting the will of anither to be taboo. I'm sure you will reach a conclusion.
Also, time can change things and perhaps the woman need to find her bottom, sorry to be harsh. Hope you fibd some healing for yourself.
Bb, Firebird

That's just it. Im not trying to tamper with free will. Her true self is perverted by bad influences and drugs. I want her to have clarity and a tender heart so i have a fighting chance

[Xiao Rong]

Sorry about your situation, Skyler. Unfortunately in my experience spells to force people to do something are often pretty ineffective (and can sometimes backfire). I would advise a spell for clarity for YOU, so that you will speak and act for the best outcome for all parties involved (yourself included!). I wrote one such spell a while back; you might be interested in it.

[SnowCat]

Skylar, you have my sympathy, but I agree with Xiao and Firebird. Spells for yourself, for clarity and healing are probably best. Sending light your way.

Snow

[skyler1486]

The love is there. Is there something to give her a tender heart and remove her cold cruel twisted exterior. No one can say that is wrong or infringes on free will

[Vesca]

... Is there something to give her a tender heart and remove her cold cruel twisted exterior. No one can say that is wrong or infringes on free will

I will say exactly that. It is a manipulative thing you're asking help with, and it does infringe on her free will and autonomy. At the end of the day, the only person who can "change" her way of thinking is herself.

The only person you can change, and the only person you can ethically cast spells on to affect change, is yourself.

I understand you're going through a hard time. The circumstances may not make sense, the events leading up to this moment may seem confusing and altogether "wrong," but the only thing you can really do at this point is to decide what you are going to do about your own sphere of existence. That is, what you are going to do with your time to take care of yourself and process what you're going through.

Based on what you've described, and how much you're going through and your lack of a support network, I would strongly advise you to talk to a professional about what's going on. There are crisis lines you can call 24/7 listed on this link for the moment and they can help you find a therapist or counselor near you who can give you the one-on-one attention you deserve. You are worth your time to help yourself feel better. There are (better qualified) people out there who can help you make sense of everything and get back on your feet.

But spells are not the answer. Manipulative spells are most definitely not the answer. We can listen and support you in your time of need, but we are not licensed professionals and this forum is not a substitute for professional assistance.

Take a look through the thread linked below, feel free to post your journey in our Mental Health or Relationships section. And know that you are worth your time and energy to help yourself feel better.

http://everythingunderthemoon.net/forum ... 30309.html

[skyler1486]

I understand and appreciate what you're saying. I just am not willing to accept this as a n answer at this point:(

Is there ANYTHING that would fall under the scope of morality? Is there ANY spell that can be cast to help her heal and be more susceptible (not forced) to her love for me and her love for herself?

Anything at all

[Becks]

Hello Skyler, let me say my heart goes to you. I have had this happen in my family. Unrelated-I am also loosing my love right now, and so I feel so much for you. I do not believe we should never impose our will on others. Like Vesca, I would encourage you to direct your energy towards your own healing. It sounds like your words and love in the mundane plane haven't been able to shift her.

I do feel one has to be careful about manipulating the will of others.

One could do a spell that puts into "trust" healing and love energy for the universe to use should she decide to pursue treatment and healing.

I always recommend healing in the mundane treatment programs etc...for addiction issues. It's a Malkuth plane kind of force. Meet it on this plane.

My thoughts and prayers are for her healing.

I so wish this wasn't happening for you. Please take care of yourself despite what she is doing to herself.