I should break this spell

[obsidianmagick]

Yeah I vote for just telling her to go away, or if you don't like being so forward, try and be really boring and unresponsive and try and make her engage in activities that she is not interested in. but pretend not to notice that she is not interested in it

[Beothany]

Try to give her advice say something like 'if you want to spend time alone with my brother than ask him. Courage gets you very far'
Or something smarticles like that

[missgems82]

I think you need to make a few life changes to be honest. With any luck, these should help you find the path which will bring you happiness. This might gradually and gently move you away from this girl and her path and allow you to find what you've been looking for. However, it may not and should this happen, it more than likely means she is meant to be part of your life for a little longer and you'll need to work on finding out what life is trying to teach you. The best may still be yet to come and you could find something within your friendship that will act as a source of personal strength and happiness. The Universe has a funny little way of guiding those who keep their eyes and hearts open, follow the signs and trust your instincts. Discovering who you truly are on the inside will help you make the right decisions - you could gain a great friend either for life or for a short time that comes to a natural conclusion which allows you both to go your separate ways without falling out and causing each other hurt and pain. No spell or wish is foolproof so always keep an open mind, things may happen which you didn't expect but that doesn't mean the spell has failed or gone horribly wrong. It just means you're meant to have certain experiences so you can gain the wisdom and knowledge you need to get to where you're meant to be.

[Greek_Male_Witch]

Well I think the lesson I need to learn is to not cast spells for love...what deeper meaning can this "joke" have? by joke I mean the outcome, not the spell!

[missgems82]

Most Pagans do tend to try and keep 2 basic laws in mind when casting spells and in their general everyday lives. The first is a promise to never deliberately cause harm to anyone, "These 8 words the Witches Creed doth fill, an it harm none, do as ye will". And the second is the rule of 3 which can also be referred to as the boomerang effect. Everything we send out will come back to us x 3 so be careful how you treat those around you. Love spells tend to break both rules because love is a pure emotion which should be given freely and never manipulated as it can end up doing more harm than good. sounds like you've realised where you went wrong so surely you must realise that its up to you and you alone to put things right again. If you really truly believe that your path does not walk next to hers, be honest and tell her. Keep things short but clear and then walk away and don't look back. Help her to move forward by staying as far away as possible so she has nothing to cling onto and show the entire world that you meant your apology by never doing this to any other girl. Let love come to you, don't force emotions that you will never truly mean.

[Star Shine]

Why dont you just reverse the spell then write one to preserve the friendship yet allow her to see the need for personal space....something along the lines of a realization spell so she can see and empathize about "crowding" you???

Blessed be

[Jadis]

Well I think the lesson I need to learn is to not cast spells for love...what deeper meaning can this "joke" have? by joke I mean the outcome, not the spell!

No what you need to learn is that everything has a consequence. What you do will come back to you a threefold - and geeze your signature is 'what goes around comes around'. You wanted a girl friend, you got a girl friend. You should wait for the spell to ware off before casting something else, how long has this spell lasted already? I would put up with her being annoying and perhaps figure out ways to leave her alone with your brother. Let THOSE two work it out. Just like say you have to pee or something and then go for a long walk. If she likes him and uses you as an excuse to spend time with him then make it so she doesnt need you as an excuse.

And that its bad form to cast a spell on someone else without their knowledge... didn't we already have this argument on cursing someone?

[WhiteOne]

I think another lesson could be that love is not always about you. You don't fall in love or have a serious friendship with someone because they have traits that you like--you do so because you can learn something from them.

Often times opposites fall in love because they both have something different to contribute. Not that having things in common is bad--but love is really something more than a combination of traits that you like.

You should also focus on the part of love that is ---loving----being accepting and caring for another. Love in not really about receiving but about giving.

But essentially--man is different than woman, right (just look down)? It is that difference that is attractive. Man cannot design love and attraction--he simply needs to be receptive to the unknown, and to being able to learn from another as an equal--and to appreciate someone else's uniqueness.

Also, we are often agitated about others when we see them exhibit some characteristic that we posses and that we dislike about ourselves. For example--If I hate the fact that I want to look beautiful, and I try with all my might to resist this desire; then I may end up being incredibly irritated with others who make efforts to look beautiful.

You are young, Greek. So I hope you do not take offense to this. But these are my thoughts on love and on acceptance. If I could fall in love with the man of my design--great. But oftentimes we fall in love with one we can learn from--one we do not know.

[Greek_Male_Witch]

Hahaha thanks for the advices, this post is pretty old, but I see it keeps has posts, I learned my lesson, I was stupid enough to do what I desired and NOT what I needed...so yes there was definetely a lesson on that one, and now that is over I'm happy it happened because I would have never learned that lesson otherwise.

[Netalula]

did you try doing the spell backwards? it helped me once when i had a little spell trouble..

[Ember Nightwolf]

I've done one of these spells before, did you put the piece of paper into an envelope? If you did, all you need to do is open the envelope, and tada! The spell should be broken. Otherwise I'm not quite sure, but i hope this helps all the same. I guess setting out the intention to break the spell is the least you can do, focus on it as if you were performing a spell, but ask for this one to be broken. Good Luck!

Just on a thought, that spell hasn't worked out for me very well either. Then again, all my spells twist themselves up... if we all keep an eye out for people who have performed the spell already, we might be able to help save a lot of trouble and warn people off it if it is a bad spell.

[finaldreamer123]

hades helps me break spells because i summen him

[Moon Stone]

Greek_male_witch,

I have to say the way you described this whole ordeal is hilarious! I had been in sort of a blah mood after work, and when I read the way you expressed your situation it made my day. My favorite part was this...

and when I need some sleep she is over my head and saying "oops did I wake you?" she is like a nightmare seriously!

That line had me totally cracking up. I was not laughing at the dilemma, but rather the entertaining way that you talked about it. I hope that since then, things have gotten better for you in regards to that female friend of yours.

On another note, I do not understand why you were being chastised for allegedly trying to manipulate will power as it seemed clear to me that you tried making the spell general and in a way that would bring some one into your life asap that, by their own will, would totally fall head over heels for you. I did not notice anywhere, where you directed it towards any specific person in particular. In my opinion, the only thing you really did wrong with it was screwed up the spell, and for that, you live and learn. Since magic is said to come from within, then I don't see why a reversal or undoing spell would not do the trick.

[Greek_Male_Witch]

Yes the things are ok now, she moved (after I done some spells and probably Universe felt sorry for me) now I'm free and I will never ever use such spell again!

[Symandinome]

The use of magick against or on others is highly controversial. You will find most people will tell you its a NO NO and I would have to say that I would be one of them. Karma is a real kick in the pants. You should definately undo any spell you have done against this person and heres a simple way you can do it.

Take three pieces of thread one of each color. * Pink, White, and Black* These should be long enough that once braided they will be long enough to make a bracelet or anklet.

Make the first knot before you braid and say
"By knot of one my spell is UNDONE"

Braid the thread all the while thinking of what you have done to this person and why it was the wrong thing to do and that you are remorseful for it.

Once the braid is finished make the second knot and say
"By knot of two all karma in tune"

Then when you see here again tell her you have a gift for her and to put out her wrist. Place the bracelet around her wrist and tie it and say *softly if you must*
"By knot of three You ARE FREE as I will so Mote it Be."

Its not going to matter if she takes it off 5 minutes later its the act of tying the final knot while the braided thread is around specifically her is what matters.

I chose the colors i did for this to specifically represent the situation e.g. the pink represents what you originally did, the white represents your remorse and enlightenment to your error, and the black represents the death of your spell.

if she gives you a hard time about you putting it on her just ask her please just wear it for today i worked hard on it special for you and chances are she will give in and let you do it.

I hope you've learned your lesson about all this and will use more caution and reasoning to your magickal workings from now on. I for one will not help you fix a problem like this again. If you try to work against another persons free will again and it backfires even worse I will laugh at you and will not help you. Good luck to you and think before you do next time