Your simple 'freezing out spell'

[virgodove]

I know you've probably all heard this one before, but being new to magic a lot of what I do through protection spells is to help myself from large amounts of negativity around me.

I have had issues with dark entities in the past and am currently overcoming the strain of being afraid tocast anything in case of it backfiring but lately its been positive.

I casted a protective circle last night and asked for guidance... I then casted a freezer spell against a very toxic friendship I have kept in my life for years now. I care for her deeply but even just one phone call from her (we have a long distance friendship now) can make me feel too emotionally connected and she isn't in a good place right now. Usually when someone brings their issues to me, I carry out my empath traits and feel too much. She is a drainer and our friendship has been one sided for too long- although we have been through too much together and I couldn't find the courage to let go.

Anyway its only been under 12 hours the spell went underway but this morning I missed her call and even though it doesn't take effect straight away, I have heard of people coming back into contact with those that have frozen them out and be tottallt changed people- so I wanted to see if that's what had happened. It wasn't the case although things were weirdly awkward and there are a couple of things we need to sort so I do have to message her.. Should I take the spell off until we have finished all our dues and then I can cut ties, re do the spell and see if it works better that way? I know she's going to call either way but I'm hoping the freeze will change the perspective of our friendship, mainly on her side.

Can anyone enlighten me on their experiences with freezer spells?
Would love to hear. Sorry for the rant!

[Xiao Rong]

Hi Fayec, welcome to board. When you get a chance, would you mind introducing yourself in the Member Profiles and Introduction Forums? (also, if you don't mind, could you change your Tapatalk settings so that it doesn't post "Sent from Tapatalk"? Thanks!!!)

Kudos to you for taking the steps necessary to heal yourself from a toxic relationship; I know firsthand just how tough that is. As for the freezer spell, no, I suggest that you keep the freezer spell on while you work out your outstanding business with her, so that your remaining interactions with her are cordial and distant, and not emotionally fraught.

I also want to mention that, while a freezer spell is a good idea for a friendship that is no longer desired, it sounds to me that you are still harboring some hopes that she'll come around. Naturally, we hope that our toxic loved ones will see how they've been harmed and, on the basis of that, change their behavior. That is unfortunately very rarely the case, and ultimately we cannot make people change if you don't want to. I would guess that it might affect the efficacy of your freezer spell, if the intent of your magic is to disconnect the relationship but you (consciously or subconsciously) want to continue the relationship. If you truly are ready to move to a different phase of your life, one where you are treated with the respect you deserve, you need to be prepared to permanently sever the relationship if she chooses not to change.