Revenge spell just made everything better for him?

[lavandatula]

I'm not big into revenge, I do not like doing this but this jerk lied to me and treated me like crap so I did a revenge spell on him to break up with the girl he left me for...and it only got better for him and her and he got even more attention (he's an online performer) from fans ...they didn't break up and instead he got colder with me WTF!

I did something to win his attention back but I think everything backfired. I guess I just wanted him to feel my pain and that he couldn't just do a lot of damage and walk away with goodies like nothing happened. I wanted and still want some kind of low key retribution..should I just leave it all behind or release my anger somehow?

[planewalker]

I'm going to PM you. May take a couple minutes. Please hang around for a little while.

[Xiao Rong]

Yes, your main goal should be trying to let him go ... In my experience, there are some people (including pretty much all psychic vampires) who thrive off of their toxic bonds with others. Even trying to do something like get revenge on them just feeds them and makes them stronger, while draining you of your vitality.

Your best bet is to sever the connection and let it go. One person once advised me to imagine a cord of energy coming out of your navel that binds you to them; you then unplug this cord from the other person and plug it back into yourself, so that you aren't just hemorrhaging energy anymore.

It may sound like a cliche, but truly the best revenge is a life well-lived (far away from them, of course).

[Newbiewitch94]

Let him go going for revenge generally tends to be petty which is something we wise ones shouldn't be plus life and the universe has a way of getting its own back on those who wrong us (in my case my violent ex bf came back begging for me and him to be friends after he found out he'd caught a std because he thought he'd gave it to me which he hadnt).

[lavandatula]

Yes, your main goal should be trying to let him go ... In my experience, there are some people (including pretty much all psychic vampires) who thrive off of their toxic bonds with others. Even trying to do something like get revenge on them just feeds them and makes them stronger, while draining you of your vitality.

Your best bet is to sever the connection and let it go. One person once advised me to imagine a cord of energy coming out of your navel that binds you to them; you then unplug this cord from the other person and plug it back into yourself, so that you aren't just hemorrhaging energy anymore.

It may sound like a cliche, but truly the best revenge is a life well-lived (far away from them, of course).

Thanks, now that you mention vampires he identified himself as a vampire and worked at night ..he even changed his twitter account location to Transilvania, but just because someone plays round with his identity does he mean there are innate characteristics in him?

I feel so powerless because I even got an ugly red psoriasis like rash all over my forehead a few days after casting spell... but he just got better and he promoted the other girl to a higher position in her job.

I had already done a cord severing little ritual and then he got colder ..maybe that one worked...hahaha

[Tutmosis]

Perhaps you have unresolved emotions, and when you did your spell, your emotions for him both positive and negative were used up.

This would be like setting your intentions, but the message wouldn't get sent properly due to how you truly feel about him in your heart

[MsMollimizz]

Its always best not to do ANY magick
while angry, pissed, upset...etc !
Gentle Light
MsMollimizz

[planewalker]

I'm in full agreement with Little Lotus and MsMollimizz. Also the Law of Three can be a he!! of a thing to have to deal with.

[HopefulChild]

Every relationship is a lesson of some sort.

Maybe what you needed to learn is that revenge is wasted effort. I can't imagine a more perfect encapsulation of that idea, than to exert the effort for revenge, and have the energy used as fuel for success.
Adding to another axiom, the best revenge, is to live well.

Sorry you were treated poorly.

[Siona]

Alright, here's the problems, as I see them...

I'm not big into revenge, I do not like doing this

this jerk lied to me and treated me like crap so I did a revenge spell...
instead he got colder with me

I did something to win his attention back
wanted him to feel my pain

There's a lot of conflicting stuff going on here. First, it sounds you were conflicted on even doing the spell in the first place, since you don't like revenge and it's not something you usually want. I'm assuming the idea was to make him break up with his girlfriend and make him want you back, where you would... not take him back, right? But in the post it comes across as a lot of back and forth, you want his attention, you want him to suffer. Not totally mutually exclusive, but I'm wondering if a lot of wires got crossed in the actual working here. If you have mixed emotions about him, and then have a mixed intent in the spell... well...

Especially when you also mention doing a cord severing. Was this before, after, or part of the working? Cord severing and wanting his attention back are, again, heading in two different directions. The last thing to consider, is this guy, or anyone around him, into witchcraft? Because if he had a witch bottle or some sort of mirror protection in place, whatever you might be trying to do to him could be coming right back at you. Did you do any sort of uncrossing or deep cleansing after working the revenge spell?

[corvidus]

Thanks, now that you mention vampires he identified himself as a vampire and worked at night ..he even changed his twitter account location to Transilvania, but just because someone plays round with his identity does he mean there are innate characteristics in him?

Identity is in the mind. You could thoroughly absorb yourself in some identity, but when it comes to paying taxes or getting a real job, what name do you use?

Point being, there are innate characteristics.

I feel so powerless

Well, sorry to say, but maybe he's more powerful?
Things like that do actually exist...

How much do you practice? Are you a follower by nature or a leader? Are you shy or outgoing?

How well do you "Know Thyself"?

[HopefulChild]

Siona makes a great point.

If you ask me for an apple, and I begin walking to the apple tree to fetch you an apple, and then half way there you shout that you really want a pear, I change direction and head in the direction of the pear tree. When I am reaching for the pear you shout that you really want some cherries. I shake my head but I head toward the cherry tree and I pick a handful of cherries, and as I return you shout that you wanted the apple after all. I will have to find someone who can and will accept the cherries now, before I can even head back to the apple tree, because I can't just throw the cherries on the ground. They've been picked. They have to go somewhere.

The Universe can't waste energy...That is not the same as saying, "the universe doesn't like to waste energy"...It literally cannot waste energy. It has to go somewhere. It is natural, immutable law that energy can neither be created nor destroyed, merely translated and transformed into other forms.

If you keep changing your mind or giving conflicting statements of desire and focus...I'd probably just go about doing other tasks I need to accomplish until you get close enough to a resolution that I can hand you something close to the things you've been flip flopping about.

Which leads directly to the point Corvidus made..Know Thyself and to thine own self be true.

[MsMollimizz]

Let him go going for revenge generally tends to be petty which is something we wise ones shouldn't be plus life and the universe has a way of getting its own back on those who wrong us

...and if you don't get the solution you were looking for...
Unresolved energy tends to sit in the gut until you can
actually "digest" those feelings COMPLETELY
otherwise you start having trouble in your gut and until
you resolve those feeling within yourself !
Read Ted Andrews The Healers Manual, he explains all
that stuff and it really makes sense I loved it so
much I had to my own copy. Lots of great info in ANY
Ted Andrews books...
Gentle Light
MsMollimizz