Law Of Attraction question

[SoulScribe]

So I'm very familiar with the Law of Attraction and the basics of how it works. I'm still trying to find a way to make it work for me, but that isn't the question.

My question is can it happen without direct intent? Here's the situation:

I daydream, a LOT. They tend to be silly things like what life would be like if I was a superhero, stuff like that. I tend not to try to control my daydreams, I just let them take me where they want. I see some beautiful worlds that way, things that I wouldn't see if I tried to constrain myself.

Lately, I've been having daydreams about a good friend of mine. They just pop into my head, and I let them go. I don't dwell on them after the fact because I take them just as they are; flights of passing fancy. These daydreams seem to involve, in one way or another, him wanting more than a friendship from me. I tend not to think of him like that in my conscious mind because there's a bit of an age gap (he's about 9 years younger than me) and he has a girlfriend. And above all that, I'm just happy where things are right now. We have fun, it's simple. No feelings, no complications, or so I thought.

We went out for a drink a few days ago, and it was a lot of fun. I noticed he'd made an effort to look nice, and he said that it was for me. I laughed this off - he has a girlfriend. We had a shot in the first bar we went to, then got a pint in and played "Never Have I Ever". He broached the topic of us sleeping together (we have in the past) and I laughed, saying I didn't want to be the "other woman" again - I've been in that situation before and felt pretty rubbish about it. He looked me in the eyes and told me he thought I could be "THE woman".

I'm terrified that by just letting my mind daydream I've influenced his thoughts and feelings towards me. I'm not a big believer in love spells and the like - if someone's going to like me, I want them to like me for me through their own free will, not because of something I've done magically. It's not even the first time it's happened - I let my daydreams go and then things start happening and my daydreams start coming true. I don't want to mess with the heads of people I care about unknowingly, so if someone could give me some sort of idea what going on and how to undo what I've done (if, indeed, I have done something), that would be brilliant.

[Queen of the Dead]

I don't think you did anything wrong. I think the daydream you had was partly prophetic. It sounds to me like... well, that he wants more than sex and friendship from you. Now, if you are interested as well, I would suggest asking him to break up with his girlfriend. Not to prove his love to you or anything like that, but to show that he isn't a cheater. Because let's be honest, if he cheated on her with you, everyone would end up being unhappy. So if you aren't 100% sure, but you have a pretty good idea of what's going on, you should ask him about it. Be up front. Beating around the bush won't get you anywhere. Also, if he isn't under-aged, the age gap shouldn't be too much of a problem.

Summary: Your daydream didn't cause him to do anything. If you feel the same, make sure his girlfriend is out of the picture and be straight-forward. If you don't, reject him as nicely as you would any other suitor who didn't peak your fancy.

I know all of this sounds pretty bossy and definitive, but in reality, this is only my opinion and you don't have to follow any of my advice. Best of luck.

[YanaKhan]

I agree you didn't really make this happen by daydreaming. I daydream a lot too and I know some things just tend to happen, but they were not always things I wanted to happen.
I think you just felt somehow what he wants from you. But to be fair, it doesn't sound too good. He probably knows you fancy him (you said you did sleep with him before) and is just flattering himself by flirting with you. It's not a very nice thing to do and I admire your reaction to it. Still, I wouldn't get too worried he has some feelings or anything. If that was the case, he wouldn't go behind his girlfriend's back. Of course I don't know him and he may very well have feelings for you. Still, I say wait and see and don't blame yourself - you did nothing wrong.

[Myrth]

You do not control another via daydreams. But sometimes people come into our minds during daydreams for a variety of reasons. He may have been thinking of you, for example. Many times, a person I have not heard from in awhile pops to mind. When I call them, I learn that something major has happened and they need a shoulder to lean on. There was a reason the person came to mind suddenly.

Or, your daydream may go in that direction because he has been giving you attraction vibes.

As to being the other woman, I agree that is the biggest problem. Tell him you will not go there as long as he is seeing another woman. And remember, if he two times her behind her back, he very well may do that to you someday. Leopards don't change their spots, and neither do cheating men.

[SoulScribe]

Thank you all so much for your suggestions and help regarding the situation. It's relieving to know I haven't done anything! That's always a big concern for me because of something someone once told me, and being relatively new to dipping my toe in these waters.

I've made my decision regarding the guy in question, and am sticking to it. I need to follow my instincts - they haven't put me wrong so far!