any spell for bringing back a ex lover who still loves me?

[huskergirl3]

first off, we split due to his job taking him away from my area. i love him, he loves me. he just thinks hes sparing me heartbreak by breaking it off due to unknown amount of time we will be apart. anything i can do to get him back? we both still love each other. i need him to see that long distance can work. plz help! im miserable!

[AdastraJunction]

Have you tried first discussing these wants, needs and fears with him? Honesty and trust are the most important things in any relationship as well has strong communication. Not everything can be solved with a spell or a ritual, you should first try more practical avenues before resulting to this. Magic of any sort is not a Cure-All. Perhaps it is a good thing to separate for a time, give you both a new perspective on your relationship. Just remember that love cannot be one sided there has to be give and take on both sides as well as compromise and sacrifice.

[huskergirl3]

i have. ive tried reassuring him. hes afraid that while hes gone, ill do what his ex wife has done and cheat. hes afraid that a few months from now ill realize i cant handle the distance and leave and leave him brokenhearted. hes afraid to try. he wants to be with me hes just scared.

[SnowCat]

Magick is not the answer to everything. Learning to be at peace with yourself and moving when you need to is a wiser course than casting spells. Also, the members of this forum take spell work quite seriously. It's not something we pass out like trick or treat candy.

Snow

[AdastraJunction]

i have. ive tried reassuring him. hes afraid that while hes gone, ill do what his ex wife has done and cheat. hes afraid that a few months from now ill realize i cant handle the distance and leave and leave him brokenhearted. hes afraid to try. he wants to be with me hes just scared.

Have you considered asking him if he would want you to come with him? Move in with him? If he hasn't asked or considered this or if you haven't then maybe this is something you should be thinking on if this is the right relationship for you.

[huskergirl3]

weve talked about that and he has said he wants me to. but he also says that because i have 3 kids in school, its not a good idea to uproot them. which i agree. i just know he loves me and wants to be with me. but his job and his fears from his past are holding him back. i need help!

[Sakura Blossom]

I'm sorry, but I can't help you with this nor would I feel comfortable doing so. As Snow said, magick is a very serious business and not something to be taken lightly. On top of that, anything that I could potentially see in this situation would involve bending free will and that's a big no-no for a majority of people (and I THINK everyone on this forum). My best advice for you is to just try and talk it out with him, rather than resort to spell work.

[Shub Niggurath]

i have. ive tried reassuring him. hes afraid that while hes gone, ill do what his ex wife has done and cheat. hes afraid that a few months from now ill realize i cant handle the distance and leave and leave him brokenhearted. hes afraid to try. he wants to be with me hes just scared.

weve talked about that and he has said he wants me to. but he also says that because i have 3 kids in school, its not a good idea to uproot them. which i agree. i just know he loves me and wants to be with me. but his job and his fears from his past are holding him back. i need help!

Okay, this might sound harsh but have you even thought about his needs in this situations? Or are you just going to try everything in order to hold him back? To be fair, the fears from his past are not holding him back - they're pushing him forward. You probably realize that it wasn't an easy decision for him to make in the first place. But he's trying to stick to it even though you're trying to convince him otherwise. Maybe he needs that time to heal his wounds from the past and also test you in a way - test if you're capable of being alone or if you need to be in a relationship so badly that you're going to betray your love.
It's not the end of the world - if you are both so in love you're going to get back together eventually, except you're both going to be emotionally enriched and stronger at that time (which is great). Think about your children, you've got 3 of them and they should be your top priority during that hard time. Hold your head up, use this time to get over your attachment problems, don't just sit around being miserable and thus making him and your children miserable as well.

Using magick in this situation would be a crime.