Help with a very negative (very) loved one-

[Truthseeker]

OK> I am an empath and I am a witch, (I guess I am a christo-pagan, if there must be labels) I need to know something- pardon me if I go about this in a rambling way.
My fiance', whom I live with, is a wonderful man and I love him with my very soul....BUT.... he exudes negative energy like Pigpen on Charlie Brown exudes dust. I mean he is just boiling with all this hostile and aggressive energy. (He isn't abusive, don't get me wrong, it is just like he always has brillo pads in his underwear and he is always short tempered and on the verge of angry) And of course I am getting it all by virtue of the empathic thingy. It is driving me nuts. He doesn't even realise he is like this, and I don't even know how to approach him about it. I really (no pun intended, seriously) feel for him, and unfortunately FEEL him. I love him so much and I wish I could help him. Is there some kind of spell I can do to help dispel some of his negativity and chill him out, soften him up a little? I don't want to change who he is, I love him but I would like to see the peaceful and sensitive side of him more.He stays wound to the max all the time (well,almost all the time- 80-90% anyway) and I feel it like a rubberband about to snap. It is so hard to deal with and I'm really NOT dealing with it well at all. When he is not wound up he is so wonderful but his tension is over the moon. He has been this way his whole life but I know darn well it can be changed. I feel like he needs just a little help, a nudge if you will and he isn't likely to be open to suggestions involving therapy or medications (which, the latter I am glad for)... so- any suggestions from any of you , empathic witches or any other kind??? I am a VERY peaceful and peace loving person, is there any way I can project some of it onto/into him?

[AutumnMaidens]

You could do a house cleansing, charge the house, mop the floor with basil extract (for purification) lavender plants/rosequartz around the house for charging with positive energies. You can talk to him, not about anything specific but just remind him that you will always be there for him. Tell him he can cofide in you and that he is not any less of a man for telling you how he feels. Make it your problem, not his by reminding him that 'you' are worrying and that 'you' want to know if he is alright.

Clear quartzes around electronical devices will purify the air, cooking or baking with lavender should strengthen familie bonds and burning herb in your household hearth to ask the faries/spirits for guidance.

Bless and hope this helps.

[Miss Pixie]

I second the suggestion AutumnMaidens made about using clear quartz and lavender. You can also use white candles charged with the intention of bringing peace to your home and fiance.

The fact that he's on edge all the time and is irritable makes me wonder if he may have a psychological issue. I understand that he wouldn't be very open to medical suggestions, but if he stays like this, you may want to gently suggest that he sees a doctor, for everyone's well-being. Bipolar disorder can make people act that way.

Blessed Be.

[Truthseeker]

I don't think he's bi-polar, but I do know he is adult adhd and his constant drive to keep on 'doing something/anything' is overwhelming. I've tried to get him to talk to the doc about med for that but in the end he doesn't want to take it. He sleeps at most 3 hrs or so a night and gets up and keeps on going. It is killing him (and me!!!). Usually he goes until exhaustion takes him out.