can't find a spell that fits...

[bobbiwhiskey]

I was wondering if anyone can help me i've done alot of searching and can't seem to find a spell that fits

I'm seeing a guy who i date for a month and a half and who stopped talking to me for 4 months out of nowhere until i ran into him about a month ago. we talked and ended up seeing each other again but he was very clear that he doesn't not want a relationship among many other issues that are going on between us. to make a long story short i feel this realtionship is not good for me but don't feel i have the strength to stick to that.

i want to get ovwer him but unlike the spells i have found i don't want to forget all about him, remove him from my life or have feelings of hatred toward him since i see good in him somewhere and want to remain on happy terms, especially since we have common friends. i therefore also hope i can break this off without him being dissagreeing or offended.

any ideas?

[Mr Wishmaker]

Wow this is a whole bag full of goodies! first of all it does not sound like you are in need of a spell because you seem to be the one with issues and there is no real value in putting a spell on yourself, work on allowing others their personal space and freedom live in the now and spot trying to control the future when you cant cant control what you will be doing in five minutes from now. your need to be a part of something or someone is based on your ill conceived notions that there is a piece of you missing. Your need to give so much is base on what you wish someone would have done for you good old fashioned projecting. Stop because he is not you and his needs are different than yours, respect him and just let him be. How can you break up with someone who never committed to you? Stop trying to see the good in him and try to see the good in yourself. Ask yourself why you have this fear of being alone? If you are having trouble bonding with others it is because you have much work to do on yourself. You are working too hard against yourself if you chase something to the point of desperation you will suffocate everything and everyone in your path, its like putting a brick on a flower, you will kill it, Love is freedom, love him wish him good thoughts of peace,joy and happiness and most of all freedom. give him the space to be who and what he needs to be accept him for who he is and if your energy's are compatible and harmonious he will always be near you.

[bobbiwhiskey]

i appreciate the advice but i'm well aware i have issues, that's why i said i'm having trouble finding the stregth to tell him i can't be involved with him and im in therapy and read a ton of self help books latley by the way which would be my first place to start. just having an especially hard time shaking this one hoped something could help me with a little push in the direction of letting go (i've performed anger and grief banishment spells in the past and found them to work and be very therapeutic) since my usual getting over someone techniques don't seem to be working.