getting over a death

[bobbiwhiskey]

Are there any spells for getting over someone's death. all the spells I found on getting over someone in general mentioned forgetting them and i obviously do not want to do that because he was a friend.

I realize one must go through a grief process but since i found out this friend was murdered, whom i haven't seen in 5 years i've been feeling alot of guilt and, remorse and can't help thinking about him and even dreaming about him. councelling hasn't fully been able to help me through i hoped maybe a spell could do the trick?

[A new found power]

It is better, and healthier for you, to try and naturally deal with this. It may seem like an easy way out to use a spell for something like this, but it IS better to avoid spells in this instance.

That said, if you do wish to cast a spell, one written by yourself would be the most potent. I cannot help you with the writing. What you write must come from your heart and be very precise as to what you want.

On the ritual side, if you wish to perform a ritual with it, One method would be to burn a candle, of a colour you resonate with death and forgiveness, perhaps white (symbolises innocence) or black (usually symbolising death and the afterlife.) Or any colour you feel represents the situation. You could burn the candle, say the words and allow the candle to burn out. This would be to symbolise your detatchment from the situation. You could also *snuff* the candle if you wish. Pending on what you feel.

A common seperation spell is to simply burn a picture of the person. You *COULD* use the light from the candle to burn a picture of your deceased friend. Just some ideas to get you going.

Remember the most powerful spell is a spell you wrote, as it is personalised to you. It doesn't have to be a brilliant, dramatic masterpiece. Aslong as it shows your feelings and you're precise about what you wish to achieve with the spell. And the ritual is a way of focusing on the task at hand, and aiding the spell. Again, you can make your own and it will be more potent than someone elses, as it is personalised.

[Raconteuse]

I whole heartedly agree with Power on this and then if I may add another perspective on life and death? It is something I posted here a while ago and you may find some comfort or even just food for thought on you healing process.

http://everythingunderthemoon.net/forum ... 20112.html

[bobbiwhiskey]

Thanks for the input both. Good reads and I lie the idea of a ritual. sometimes I feel just the action of doing something (for example i've performed banishing anger and grief spells before) to be really therapeutic