What do you do when your child begins talking to some unseen entity?
How do you determine if it's a psychic event, an imaginary playmate, or
some sign of a mental health issue? You want to handle things in a way
that is best for your child and of course in a way that isn't going to
harm them in any way. You also want to make sure that you speak from a
spiritual belief system that you can believe in. Your child will know if
you are uncomfortable with the topic or if you don't believe in what you
are saying. They'll also be able to tell if you are scared or threatened
by the subject matter. You will want to fully research the concepts and
choices before saying something that you might later regret. The first
response should probably be no response. After all, it may just be a
fabrication to gain attention. Kids do that.
The first thing to look into is imaginary playmates. There is a lot of
research and information to be found on the topic. You can ask your child
some questions about their little friend and find out pretty clearly if
the child is creating an imaginary playmate or not. The research will show
you some of the common reasons and scenarios that cause some children to
create these friends. Study the topic for yourself and make up your own
mind if that's what is happening with your child.
If you determine that your child does not fit into the imaginary playmate
profile, then you have to decide if they're actually talking to guardian
angels, spirit guides, Jesus, or some deceased relative. As I understand
it, imaginary playmates are not named after spiritual entities or
relatives. They have their own unique names. If your child is specifically
mentioning Jesus, or great grandpa Joe who died last month, then you have
to evaluate the chances that they're either suffering a bit of an
emotional problem or they really are talking to spirits. I would also look
at your own words and see if the child might be trying to win your favor
by pretending to channel your favorite spiritual figure. Also, are you
giving them subtle messages that maybe you want them to be magical
children that talk to angels and spirits? They may be faking it in order
to please you. Kids do that.
It might not hurt to find a therapist who believes that psychic
events can and do happen. They would be able to give you some
professional insight, guidance, and reassurances if needed. If you see a
therapist who simply doesn't believe in such things, then you and your
child may be deemed nuts! On the other hand, there are experts who are
so hungry to find real live cases of psychic children, that they may
overlook signs that your child is faking it or struggling with other
issues. You really need to choose the therapist carefully and one with
good amount of common sense as well as an open mind. They will be able
to help you find out if your child is really channeling someone from the
other side or if they're suffering from some sort of a psychological
issue that needs attention. They can also help you to learn how to speak
to your child about the events. If it's determined that your child is
psychic, expand your research to include information about psychic
children. The fact that it's Jesus or Joe that your child is talking to
may be comforting, but that's not really the issue. The fact that they
can possibly 'hear' and 'see' a dead person means that you have three
basic choices before you:
- Make your child stop so they'll be 'normal' and fit in with everyone
else. This is typically done by ridicule, punishment, or logically telling
them that what they are experiencing is not real. Telling them it's not
real and isn't happening is a polite form of ridicule.
- Make the child into your personal miracle. Have them show off for
everyone you know by channeling grandpa Joe for you, your friends, and
family. This will make them feel like a side show freak. This approach
could quite possibly backfire on you by making your child quit talking
with angels altogether. It can also make them embrace a sense of self who
is freakish, causing the child to become a really weird and spooky
personality type who doesn't fit in with anyone anywhere.
- Behave as if it's perfectly normal to talk with those who have passed
over to the other side and act as though it's simply another form of
communication and/or prayer. Explain to them that there's nothing wrong
with them. However, you should probably warn them, as they get older that
there are frightened uneducated people who will not like it. They will
need to learn when is the proper (safe) time and place to discuss such
things and with whom. By not making a huge big deal of it, you help them
to feel like it's simply a natural part of life. I personally would not
want to deny my child such a direct link to the heavens. My overall
recommendation is to research psychic children and imaginary playmates.
You can find support groups of other parents and professionals who are
addressing this topic. They would have more concrete research and data for
you. Whether your child has created an imaginary playmate to entertain
themselves, is really psychic, is just trying to get some attention, or is
having emotional problems, they were given to you to care for. No matter
what your belief system, it's your job to protect your child and make sure
they grow up as balanced and sacred as possible. The most important thing
is that you both continue being honest and loving towards each other. Be
kind and most things will turn out for the best.
Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas
About The Author:
Skye Thomas began writing books and articles with an everyday practical
approach to life in 1999 after twenty years of studying spirituality,
metaphysics, astrology, personal growth, motivation, and parenting. After
years of high heels and business clothes, she is currently enjoying
working from home in her pajamas.
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